In pondering on terrorist attacks, I realized that not only do terrorist attacks come into our home, but we are capable of launching them ourselves. Just as our own country now has a department called ‘Homeland Security,’ we also need to devise a spiritual ‘Homeland Security’ plan.
Many of us are entering that stage of life where we may see our husband go through a mid-life crisis. As men reach the stage of life where the hair begins to thin and the waist begins to thicken, they may suddenly realize that as they go walking down the street, they no longer draw the attention of women. Ladies who may likely do a double-take when they see a good-looking man, don’t even acknowledge that he exists. They may get that sudden panic-stricken feeling of realizing that their youth is quickly fading before their eyes. To top it off, they come home, only to hear the following kinds of comments:
‘Dad, can I have an increase on my allowance?’
‘The washer quit working today, and the car is acting up.’
‘Did you remember to stop by the store and pick up some milk?’
‘Dad, did you write out the check for church camp registration?’
‘I need money so that I can pay the bills.’
‘Junior got put in detention for the second time this week.’
‘Janie got a D on her report card.’
Suddenly, not only does he feel old and fat, but he feels very unappreciated and unloved. Part of devising a homeland security plan is to be very strategic about the timing of these kinds of issues. We also need to teach our children to be mindful of how and when they approach their father with these kinds of requests.
Ladies, if we aren’t careful, we can launch a terrorist attack of infidelity. You see, we are told in Eph. 5:33 that we are to respect our husband, to notice him, prefer him, praise him, compliment him, and admire him exceedingly. (Amp.) When we fail to do this, it can further launch him toward the temptation of an affair. The other woman never brings him problems (like a broken washer, car repairs, etc.), but she plays up to his ego. She compliments him, admires him, praises him, notices him, and she even takes the time to listen to him. She does what we may have failed to do. When we take the time to give our husband what I call ‘positive strokes,’ we launch a homeland security plan that keeps him coming home to us, rather than looking to another woman.
Continuing on the subject of homeland security, keep in mind that when your husband has been out working all day, he likely sees dog-eat-dog competition, and hears negative talk, criticism, and backbiting, not to mention a lot of ungodly talk in the form of dirty jokes and foul language. A perfect solution for this would be to give him some time to read the Word when he first gets home. However, I have heard from many women that their husband won’t take the time to read the Word. The blood of Jesus cleanses us from our own sin, and the Word cleanses us from the dirty things to which we are exposed on a daily basis. So if our husband isn’t taking time to read the Word, letting it cleanse him from the filth that he’s dealt with all day long, how can we launch a homeland security plan to help him? We need to counter all of that negative ‘stuff’ when he comes home. If he isn’t in the habit of reading the Word, we can try to offer a pleasant, wholesome atmosphere in our home. We can be diligent about reading the Word ourselves, and then sharing in conversation with him the things we are learning, or even letting him know how we are being challenged in our own walk.
Many times in our marriage, our spouse may say something that angers us. If we don’t quickly crucify our flesh, we will launch an ungodly terrorist attack by lashing out in our anger and bringing up past issues and past hurts. That kind of attack may cause damage to our marriage that is similar to the Twin Towers when they came crashing down. The very foundation was destroyed. Rather than destroying the foundation of our marriage in the heat of an argument, let’s determine to have a homeland security plan that shows us to be peacemakers, showing ourselves to be true daughters of God. (Mt. 5:9) We are to make every effort to live in peace with ALL men, including our husband. (Heb. 12:14)
Another homeland security plan that I have enforced is by teaching my daughter that we are to be different — aliens and strangers on this earth. (Heb. 11:13) We don’t dress in hip huggers or low-cut, tight-fitting shirts because as Christian ladies, we are to be self-controlled and chaste in our actions, deeds, and our manner of dress so that God’s Word won’t be blasphemed or exposed to reproach. (Tit. 2:5) We are to control our bodies in purity, not dressing like the ungodly who purposely dress with the intent to get men to lust for them. For when we dress and behave immodestly, we defraud young men by getting them to think that we can provide satisfaction for them, and it’s GOD who should bring ultimate satisfaction to them. God doesn’t take this matter lightly either — rather, He will punish all (wo)men for such sins. (I Th. 4:4-6) By starting the teaching on modesty and proper behavior at a young age, we have engaged a homeland security plan that may help to keep our daughters pure in body, mind, and spirit. It can help to destroy the terrorist attacks that are so prevalent in the lives of many young ladies in this day and age.
Many times when our hormones are all out of kilter, our tongues can unleash a vicious terrorist attack. One plan to keep the homeland safe during these times is to meditate on Phil. 4:8. If we find that our thoughts aren’t true, noble, just, pure, lovely, virtuous, or praise worthy, we can go to war and take our thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ. (II Cor. 10:5) There is nothing wrong with taking some medication to help us during those time of crabbiness. I’ve taken herbal medicines, as well as a generic premenstrual medication to help soothe my raging hormones. I also go on the offensive and warn my family that my hormones are acting crazy. I ask them to please try to bear with me. I let them know that if I’m short-tempered and cranky with them, it’s not their fault. They are much more likely to grant me grace in those times if I simply forewarn them.
In this final lesson on homeland security, we will be discussing how to launch a plan to teach our children faithfully about the Lord. We will also deal with the overwhelming issue of suffering through depression, even when you have been faithful to read the Word of God.
Another very pro-active homeland security plan is to be faithful to teach our children about God, and how God wants us to live. So many times, parents leave the spiritual training to the church and the workers at the church. Having worked in children’s church for quite some time, I can assure you that a lot of time is wasted during children’s church because of the rowdy children. I know that many times the workers wonder if any of their message came across because of the myriad of distractions they face every week. I know that we are all tired at the end of the day, and we just want to send the kids off to bed so that we can have some peace, but that is a prime time to talk with the children. They are very open in those moments. Don’t let a satanic terrorist steal those moments from you, never to be recaptured. If you make this a habit, in only a matter of about thirty days, it will become an automatic habit and a good one! You will never regret taking that time to talk with your children. Sometimes the subject will get off target, but that’s all right. Let them talk, and be sure to really listen to them. If you don’t take time to listen and talk with them about the unimportant issues, they won’t talk to you later about the really important issues.
Too many people are quick to condemn those who suffer with depression. They leave you with the impression that if you read the Word, it will take care of any depression. While that is true in many case, it isn’t true in all cases. Sometimes there are physical things wrong that need to be corrected through medication. To those of you who may be on medicine for depression, I want to say, ‘Bless you for getting help!’ You may be facing guilt and condemnation from the enemy. In fact, some of that guilt and condemnation may even be coming from your own church family. I applaud you for realizing that you needed some help from a doctor. Because of your wisdom in seeing this need, you may never realize what kinds of terrorist attacks you may have stopped just by simply taking medication to help your body function the way God made it to function. You have launched an effective security plan for yourself, and for your family. Don’t feel guilty about being on the medication. After all, God is the one who gave doctors the wisdom to help you!
Sisters, do you need to start up some homeland security in your home?
© 2004, Stacy R Miller