Don’t Puke on Me!

Don’t Puke on Me!


Have you ever gone to church, looking to be spiritually refreshed, only to find that someone approaches you, and ‘dumps’ on you?  What they had to say may have been gossip or slander.  It may even be a comment that is very critical of you or someone whom you deeply respect.  Maybe you’ve been trapped in a conversation with someone who is always moaning about life.  They have to recite their weekly woes to anyone who gives them an audience.  Suddenly, you find that the anticipation you had of being refreshed has been quenched.  Now you are left with an unsettling feeling in your spirit.  My former Sunday school teacher had a very apt description for this.  He called it being ‘puked on.’


We are admonished to speak to one another with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs.  (Eph. 5:19) Our conversation should revolve around things that are noble, lovely, pure, right, excellent, virtuous, and praiseworthy.  (Phil. 4:8)


While it’s so easy to remember times when others have ‘puked’ on us, it’s not so easy to force ourselves to recall times when we have done the ‘puking.’  We don’t want to think that we could possibly have done that, but we need to evaluate what we let slip from our lips.


When our husband comes home, do we greet him joyfully? Or do we start unleashing all of the terrible events of the day, thus ‘puking’ on him, before he ever gets in the door?


When our children forget their chores again, do we patiently instruct them, giving clear guidelines, with consequences to follow for noncompliance?  Or do we ‘puke’ on them, telling them how sick and tired we are of reminding them?  Do we continue in our tirade, saying words that are emotionally abusive, making them feel worthless and devalued?


When we’ve had a spat with our husband just before heading out to the women’s Bible study, do we enter the room and begin to ‘puke’ on all of the ladies who are attending the study?  Do we proceed to carry on about what a moron our husband is?  Do we ‘puke’ bitter, resentful words about him?  So often, when there is a group of women, one bad comment can light a fire, quickly spreading to every woman there.  (Jas. 3:6) Before we know it, the Bible study has turned into a man-bashing session.


Vomit is filled with bitter stomach acids and bile.  It leaves a horrendous taste in our mouth.  When we ‘puke’ spiritually, it leaves an awful, bitter feeling in our spirit.  We will begin to feel disquieted and our sense of peace will be disrupted.


We are told in James 3:14-15 that harboring bitter envy and selfish ambition in our hearts is devilish and unspiritual.  James knows that what is stored in our heart will eventually flow from our lips.  (Lk. 6:45) When that happens, we have begun to ‘puke.’


When we’ve been ‘puked’ on, we need to wash ourselves with the Word.  (Eph. 5:26) When we’ve been guilty of doing the ‘puking,’ we can find a remedy for it in Psalm 51.


1.  Ask God to blot out our sins.

2.  Ask God to wash away our iniquities.

3.  Acknowledge that we’ve sinned against Him.

4.  Ask Him to cleanse us.

5.  Ask God to create in us a pure heart.

6.  Ask God to renew a right spirit within us.

7.  Ask Him to restore to us the joy of our salvation.

8.  Ask God to grant us a willing and obedient spirit.

9.  Ask Him to open our lips to declare His praise.

10. Ask Him to give us a broken and contrite heart whenever we have sinned.

© 2004, Stacy R. Miller


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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Mel
    Jul 12, 2014 @ 06:35:54

    A great post, thank you for writing this!


  2. Desiray
    Jul 12, 2014 @ 12:47:57

    I have experienced this and it does do something to your spirit. I had to learn that the next time someone comes dumping on me I have to stop them before they begin.

    By letting them know I don’t mind hearing what they have to say but let them know that every time we speak its negative words that you speak. Try speaking healing words and watch your circumstances change


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