Are You a Keeper?

Are You a Keeper?

In Titus 2:5, the KJV says that women are to be “keepers” at home.  In the original text, it was referring to guarding the home.  When I think of guarding, I am picturing our troops, being on guard against the enemy.  While there is a time and place for using guards in a war, we must remember that we are in a spiritual war.  II Cor. 10:3 tells us that we don’t war after the flesh, but our war is a spiritual one.  It is a struggle against principalities and powers, rulers of darkness, and spiritual wickedness in high places.

Satan has a plan, and his plan involves destroying the family in any way he possibly can.  That is why it is critical for us to learn to be “keepers” at home.  This means that we are the one who watches over the affairs at home.  It means we are ‘careful’ in our job, yet we are also ‘cared for’ by our Lord.  

As you can see, this is a very high and holy calling for us.  In the midst of poopy diapers, runny noses, or tending to a child who has the stomach flu, this is a very hard thing to remember.  If we do it to the least of these, we’ve done it unto Christ.  If we do it willingly and lovingly, then we are storing up treasures where moth and rust won’t corrupt.  (Mt. 6:19)

Many times we can find ourselves distracted from our duties as a guard and keeper.  We may feel the pull of the phone, feeling that we must have some adult conversation.  While there is nothing wrong with talking with friends from time to time, if we find ourselves consistently on the phone and never taking the time to play with the children, then we have ceased to be a keeper at home.

If we are constantly on the Internet, letting the TV babysit the children, then we are slacking in our duties as guards and keepers at home.  By our actions, we are showing that while our body may be physically present in the home, our heart isn’t there.

A true keeper at home will diligently be on the lookout for disrespect, wrong responses from her children, unjoyful or ungrateful attitudes.  We need to be looking for times to teach spiritual things to our children just by observing things in everyday life.  We also need to be careful managers of our time, making sure that we are taking the time to do devotions, not just rushing through them so that “we’ve done our duty,” but to take the time to discuss what we are reading. 

We must be a careful guard over what things we allow our children to read or watch on TV.  Many of those things will teach them values that are contrary to what we want taught in our home. 

We need to guard their friendships as well.  While we may not be directly in the room with them when they have friends over, we can still listen to the conversation and observe the attitudes from a distance.  If you view something which is objectionable, you may discuss this later with the children.  I have had many discussions with Rachel about the behavior of some of the neighborhood kids.  I began to pray for the Lord to help Rachel make wise choices in her friendships.  She rarely seeks the company of these kids now.

Here are some phrases that would go along with being a keeper:  Care for, maintain, administer, manage, minister to, run, direct, abide, preserve, settle.  We need to settle our minds, our bodies, and our spirits into lining up with God’s holy calling for us – the calling to be guards and keepers over the most precious of possessions:  our children.

© 2003, Stacy R Miller


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